My Daughter!
When Tula came home for the first time, Torin was taking a nap. When he woke up, we went to the crib to introduce her to him. Torin didn't want to acknowledge Tula at all--he turned his back immediately after he laid eyes on her. We tried to take a picture of them both on my lap, but when Tula was given to me, he pushed us away and climbed onto his Daddy right away. He's always grumpy after a nap, so I wasn't surprised... until he saw her getting a bottle!
He opened his mouth in a silent scream, with his hands as claws in front of him. He slowly melted to the floor, with tears sprinkling from his eyes- coming so fast they bounced from his eyes instead of rolling down his cheeks. He frunped to the ground and only then did he look at us with greater disappointment any adult would bother to feel about me. He felt betrayed.
But! After a meal he was a different boy. Suddenly, he couldn't stop touching her cheek with his index finger. He wanted to touch her all the time. Lucky for us all, he's gentle. He kept repeating "Baby girl! Baby girl!" "Baby Sister!" "Tula!"
Getting some lovin', whether she likes it or not!
True DiStéfano fashion!
He started daycare again on Monday, and the teachers told me that he kept on telling them all about Baby Girl. He felt proud of her, and proud of himself for being a big brother.
I'm proud of him too!
When Tula came home for the first time, Torin was taking a nap. When he woke up, we went to the crib to introduce her to him. Torin didn't want to acknowledge Tula at all--he turned his back immediately after he laid eyes on her. We tried to take a picture of them both on my lap, but when Tula was given to me, he pushed us away and climbed onto his Daddy right away. He's always grumpy after a nap, so I wasn't surprised... until he saw her getting a bottle!
He opened his mouth in a silent scream, with his hands as claws in front of him. He slowly melted to the floor, with tears sprinkling from his eyes- coming so fast they bounced from his eyes instead of rolling down his cheeks. He frunped to the ground and only then did he look at us with greater disappointment any adult would bother to feel about me. He felt betrayed.
But! After a meal he was a different boy. Suddenly, he couldn't stop touching her cheek with his index finger. He wanted to touch her all the time. Lucky for us all, he's gentle. He kept repeating "Baby girl! Baby girl!" "Baby Sister!" "Tula!"
Getting some lovin', whether she likes it or not!True DiStéfano fashion!
He started daycare again on Monday, and the teachers told me that he kept on telling them all about Baby Girl. He felt proud of her, and proud of himself for being a big brother.
I'm proud of him too!
4 comments:
He did a bit of mourning! That breaks my heart that for a second he might have thought...what? that he was replaced? or had to share?! It's amazing to me that a two year old can realize and express those emotions. He's only two! What a gentle older brother! Torin looks so pleased to realize that Tula is his too!
xo!xo!
Oh, I love a happy ending. The beginning was just heart-wrenching. Seriously. I stopped reading for a bit and had to come back to it.
But that sweet sweet boy. I hope Tula doesn't torture him when she gets older.
I really don't think she will. With these two, there's plenty of love to go around, and I think she'll always know how much he cherishes her. It's hard to not see when he looks at her- seriously, the sweetest face ever. I'll try to catch it on camera. I think he feels what I feel too- that his heart just swells and bursts with love for this new little creature. It's part exhilaration, part expectation, part anticipation--his whole face lights up. He always has time and energy for his little sister.
I wasn't worried for a minute--Torin is all about the love all the time. And it's not like he's got parents who wouldn't reassure him from the get-go that he's still their little man! Good blog, sis. All our love to Bubs and the three T's!
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